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4 steps for talking about Jesus at the bar (or coffeehouse, or anywhere else)

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This post originally appeared in Toast Weekly, a newsletter of the Episcopal Diocese of Washington DC.

If you’re like me, you’ve been told once or twice that being a good Christian includes occasionally telling other people about Jesus.

Your reaction might go something like: “Ewww. Yuck. I’m not that interested in evangelism, or selling something, or anything like that.”

But there is another part of you which senses that if more people knew the Jesus who was a radical for peace, forgiveness, love, and justice—the world would be a better place. So how does one go about doing this, without feeling like an unwanted door-to-door salesperson or an awkward friend?

I’ve found that open conversations about topics of faith can happen anywhere, even at the bar. Here are a few tips on talking about Jesus over beer, coffee, or whatever beverage you might prefer:

1. Listen.
Yes, we are talking about talking. But before someone is ready to hear from you, they need to be heard. So be a great listener, and you’ll become someone others want to listen to. Be genuinely open to what the other person has to say, because a) you’ll probably learn something; and b) he or she will be much more likely to reciprocate.

2. Embody.
One of the best ways to “talk” about Jesus is to do the kinds of things Jesus did. Hang out with strangers. Be compassionate. Serve. Seek justice.

3. Drink.
Want to have a deeper conversation with a friend or co-worker? Consider a happy hour setting, where everyone feels relaxed, it is informal, and the conversation can happen naturally. The right coffee shop can create a similar atmosphere.

4. Converse.
Consider starting a “Pub Theology”-style discussion group. This is a regular (weekly or monthly) open conversation that can happen at a neighborhood bar, brewery, or coffee shop. Come up with a name for your group, find a venue, and then let people know about it. It can be as simple as word of mouth, and with a few flyers and social media posts, it can help you connect with new folks who are interested in talking about life, meaning and faith.

Whatever your setting, remember that the alcohol is optional, and a spirit of welcome and hospitality is central.

Cheers!

bryan-2Bryan Berghoef is a pastor, speaker, and author of the book: Pub Theology: Beer, Conversation and God. He’s also a big fan of his kids, baseball, and a good scotch.

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  1. ncyjoygries says:

    All great ways to communicate what you want to communicate Bryan.
    It seems to me that sometimes the very words we choose get in our way.
    You have to read your audience and use your intuition.
    If the word “god” or “Jesus” is being used, then use them, but…..if you feel that those very words will be a complete turn off, then use other words.
    I don’t think either God or Jesus would be offended. The main thing to communicate is the actions God subscribes to. Acting and living your life in the presence of Jesus will account for more understanding of Him than any proper word usage.

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